<p>Life can get awfully busy, so it’s not always possible to luxuriate in preparing for a night of pleasure with another man, but if you have the time, it’s well worth it.</p><p>I like to think of it as an extended foreplay session, both for me and my husband. It arouses both of us – in different ways, I’m sure, but it’s still arousing – and it makes the payoff that much more satisfying when it happens. I’ve heard it said that the anticipation of something – a vacation, a great meal, etc – can be just as satisfying as the thing itself, and this is kind of like that. I spend hours in that state of anticipation and I get to savor it more because I’m playing this lovely little game of preparation with my husband, and in doing so we’re also connecting on this deep, beautiful level.</p><p>I’ve never actually had him draw me a bath, but I do like showering with him when we have enough time on a day when I’m going to spend time with another man. I usually like it to be a sensual experience. He washes my hair and body. We touch and kiss. We arouse each other but we don’t push it too far because we both understand that the payoff is coming later.</p><p>I’m not crazy about anyone else using a razor between my legs, so I rarely have him shave my pubic hair, but I can see where that would be a remarkably potent thing, especially if combined with a bit of dirty talk. He’s on his knees. You’re standing above him. You’re telling him that he’s trimming your pubic hair the way another man likes it. That alone would be enough to thrill most cuckolds. Don’t get him too aroused, though, because one slip of the razor – or scissors, or whatever he’s using – can have devastating consequences.</p><p>On these days where we luxuriate in the prep process, I like to have him pick out my lingerie and dress me in it. He’s done it enough times that he’s good at it (believe me, a man can be very bad at dressing a woman in lingerie, which takes a lot of the fun out of it). It’s all quite sensual, too. There’s lots of touching – he’s usually naked while he does it – and little bits of dirty talk about the choice he’s made and how much it’s going to arouse the man I’ll be spending the night with. By that point he’s usually hard, or at the very least he’s in that aroused state where his cock drips precum, which I love.</p><p>I guess some people wouldn’t really enjoy being aroused for hours on end before the payoff arrives, but there are days when I love it. To me, it feels like a way to connect with my husband and to spend hours in that connected place, which I see as a really good thing for our marriage. We don’t do it all the time, of course, but that only enhances the experience when we actually do it, which is why I recommend it for any couple looking to make their cuckolding even more satisfying.</p>